Sometimes this even means you have to stop looking up what is giving you pain. Stop creeping on people who hurt you, stop reading words of someone you can't have, delete your facebook or other profiles for a while. Don't torment someone with your presence, or torment yourself by keeping them in your life even if it's just a virtual life. Everything will heal gracefully. Something I was thinking about while I was working on my novel and talking with my sister about a friend of hers being sick. Sometimes you have to let go of what you've done that you thought was a mistake. Just learn from it and let it go.